My Story

 For years I have been trying to get pregnant.

I got married in my mid-20s, ready to begin a new chapter of my life, full of excitement and anticipation to start a family. Little did I know that my life would take a 180 degree turn over the next 8 years, totally changing who I am and tested my marriage like I never imagined.

Over the years I have sought help from Western and Chinese fertility doctors. I did all I could to ensure I was maximising my chances of getting pregnant. I did my first IVF with high hopes, I was young then and my doctor said I had a 70% chance of success. 

But she was wrong, I failed miserably with the number and quality of eggs I produced. I was devastated and got more anxious about everything I did. I was worried all the time and had instilled restrictions upon myself and my husband on what we should and shouldn't do while trying to conceive. 

We would often disagree and quarrel because of this and It took a toll on our relationship. I started having anxiety attacks on a daily basis, minor things would trigger these attacks which resulted in shortness of breath, migraines, digestive issues and in the recent years, chest pain. I would get so worried whenever I got these symptoms and the more worried I got the more often it happened. It was a vicious cycle I could never control. 

I started searching for answers and solutions, firstly I knew that we are what we put "in" our bodies. I joined a class conducted by a nutritionist guiding men and women who were preparing to get pregnant. I learned how to choose the right foods, the right portions and started exercising regularly. I felt good about myself, but my anxiety attacks did not go away.

Every time I walk into my fertility doctor's office, the first thing I hear is "Relax.. don't be stress". And yes, I know STRESS was the main contributor to infertility but I didn't know how to manage it. 

One day as I was chatting with my friend she shared with me about her wellness journey, and invited me to a zoom sharing session. I was intrigued by what I heard that day, I knew I could benefit some way or another. I thought... there was no harm in trying something new right?

I jumped right in and started on this journey that I am so grateful to be a part of. The support and guidance I received was invaluable towards my fertility journey and overall wellness. I was able to control my emotions and stress in a way I wasn't able to in the past.  

I also learned that we are what we put 'on' our bodies. The amount of chemicals and toxins we are exposed to everyday disrupt our hormones and endocrine system without us knowing it. And this was another contributor to infertility. Ever since, I have started to DIY my products and am surprised by how easy and inexpensive it is to do so. Using natural remedies at home for just about anything, even when I'm feeling under the weather. The benefits of using natural products far exceeds what money can buy.

I'm glad to say that I have not had an anxiety attack or chest pain since. Staying grounded and calm has helped me deal with everyday challenges in a completely different way. 

Do I still get nervous? Yes. Do I still get migraines? Yes. 

It’s part of life. But now I know what to do and how to manage when things happen, and it never manifest and got worse like how it used to. I'm no longer the nervous wreck I once was. 

After starting on this wellness journey, managing my stress and reducing chemicals in my life, I went for my 3rd IVF. I didn't intentionally plan for it that way but it was God's timing, I was able to get a double A grade blastocyst which I never had in my past rounds of IVF. I'm truly grateful and excited as I know that I'm going in the right direction and never regretted my decision to try something new.

No matter where you are at in your fertility journey, know that you are not alone. 

I would like to share with you what I've learned, what I did and will continue doing for myself and my family's wellness. Even if you are not planning to get pregnant but just wanting to improve your wellness (cause who doesn't?), or going through a stressful period in your life. 

Join me to embark on this journey you will not regret, and let's take charge of our lives and take one step closer to achieving wellness that everyone desires.